A lot of people around me are having kids and every day it becomes more apparent that hitting your children to punish them is insane because literally everything can be a horrible punishment in their eyes if you frame it as such.
Like, one family makes their toddler sit on the stairs for three minutes when he hits his brother or whatever. The stairs are well lit and he can see his family the whole time, he’s just not allowed to get up and leave the stairs or the timer starts over. He fucking hates it just because it’s framed as a punishment.
Another family use a baseball cap. It’s just a plain blue cap with nothing on it. When their toddler needs discipline he gets a timeout on a chair and has to put the cap on. When they’re out and about he just has to wear the cap but it gets the same reaction. Nobody around them can tell he’s being punished because it’s in no way an embarrassing cap, but HE knows and just the threat of having to wear it is enough.
And there isn’t the same contempt afterwards I’ve seen with kids whose parents hit them. One time the kid swung a stick at my dog, his mother immediately made him sit on the stairs, he screamed but stayed put, then he came over to my dog and gently said “Sorry Ellie” and went back to playing like nothing happened, but this time without swinging sticks at the nearby animals.
passports…should not expire
it's 2:24 in the morning. why is gender so hard
Have you ever licked a button battery?
the axe forgets but the tree remembers
thing that drives me insane about the ouyang/wbx dynamic is that they both think they would do a way better job of being each other. ouyang is like ugh you have an intact male body and you're not even doing anything with it if i was in your position i would be soooo well-respected and masculine and my dad would love me for always doing what he wants. meanwhile wbx is like fuck you i love schemes and plots and being Not A Real Man why are you trying to prove yourself to people who are never going to accept you but also esen loves you and you don't even appreciate it, if he loved me i would be loyal to him forever and never betray him. also they do clearly have some level of respect for one another but they're also physically incapable of being in the same room without calling each other slurs
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if you had fun it was not a waste of time, having fun is literally one of the best parts of being alive
Me: I’m asexual
Person: But you don’t look asexual
Me: Sorry let me just-
Friend and I are making our way slowly through the sagas and badly managing stardew addictions.
Here are Circe and Tiresais :)
Still feeling insane about this shot. "Checking you out between the crossed blades of our swords" yes good but Li Xiangyi is literally seeing his own face in Di Feisheng's sword as it obscures half of DFS's face. If swords and swordplay are the truest expression of - god how do I even describe it - who you are, your core, your relationship to the world and how you act within it, your morals, your standards, your beliefs idk just EVERYTHING - And here is the only other person who can match you, your rival and your enemy and your equal - crossing blades with you, because you think he's betrayed you, killed your shixiong, torn up the peace treaty you created together - but in his blade you see yourself.
The show is telling us literally in the opening scene that these two people are a matched set, do not separate - even as the scene is tearing them apart.