What A Dandy Crown 🌼🌻

Like what you like, love what you love, and to hell with all the rest of it.

Who cares what other people think, live your life for you!

Here is the secret to fandom:

Give zero fucks about what anyone else is doing.

Seriously.  I mean it.  Because inevitably you will love something that no one else loves.  Or you will love something that everyone loves and people will shit all over it because it’s “so trite and unimaginative and done.” Or you will love something that no one else has ever heard of.  Or you will love something dark and edgy and or obscure and people will roll their eyes and say, “What, do you want people to think you’re dark and edgy and obscure?”

Alternatively, you will not love the thing that everyone else loves, and you will wonder what precisely is wrong with you that the sight of that thing is aggravating the shit out of you now when the whole world sings its praises as one.

People will irritate you.  They’ll irritate you with headcanons that make no sense and misinterpretations of canon.  They will make the same jokes 500 times.  They will overwhelm your corner of fandom with something you either are tired of hearing about or don’t care about.  They will post art that isn’t theirs.  You will meet people who think you are the greatest person ever and bombard you with messages  only to wander off when they find someone new or shinier; you will meet people whom you admire and who do not really seem to notice you exist. 

So give zero fucks about it.  Seriously.  Like what you like, blacklist what you need to blacklist, and ignore everything else.  Be friends, play nice, enjoy it.  And in the meantime, just do you.  Like what you like, love what you love, and to hell with all the rest of it. 

I think about this post so much! When I finally tell my family that I'm queer I would love to throw a party. Make a rainbow layer cake and get each person to wear a different rainbow color!

I know gender reveal parties seem like cishet nonsense but it would be cool af if coming out parties became a thing. Like, a world where a kid (or adult, for that matter) genuinely has the ability to announce their sexuality to the world, no matter what it is. I’d imagine they generally take place in middle or high school, sort of when kids start actually dating, and would be thrown by a few older relatives, but it could also be totally acceptable to wait until you’re older and throw one yourself or have friends throw it. Instead of the stereotypical nervous “mom…dad…I’m gay” it’s more LIKE a gender reveal party, because you cheer no matter the result because “what’s really important is that they’re healthy and happy.” And kids can say with equal confidence and excitement “I’m straight,” “I’m gay,” “I’m bisexual,” “I’m asexual,” “I’m…”

be kind. be ridiculously, radically, endlessly kind. be a part of someone’s good day. send nice thoughts, send positive vibes, send support and love and well wishes. be kind. so often we wish for tomorrow to be a good day when we are at our lowest. some sort of sign that it gets better. be a part of that better day for someone. the world does not magically decide that it will be softer on you today, tomorrow, the next day. and sometimes it starts with a message from someone else, maybe a little bit of inner strength to pull yourself up and take a shower, maybe a bit of sunlight makes the day better. but it’s these small things, these soft things that make a day better. so be kind. don’t ever think about being anything other than kind. be a part of someone’s good day because you don’t know how desperate they might be for it. 

I love them!

podcast crossover bfs

You know what? Happy Pride to everyone still in the closet. 

To the people who don’t feel safe enough to come out to their friends or family or community or all three. 

To those who feel like they can’t come out because they just feel confused about their gender or sexuality and don’t know how to come out when they don’t even know what label to use. 

To the people who fear coming out publicly because it may put their job or career at risk.

To the people who haven’t come out because they don’t want anything to change about their relationships.

To the people who see Pride festivals and parades being advertised or talked about, who look up their local one with the understanding that they cannot attend. To those who feel distanced from Pride because you feel like you cannot partake in the celebration because only you know that it’s a celebration meant also for you.

Pride Month is for you, too. Be proud of yourself even if you can’t be out. Be proud of your journey of self-acceptance, even if you haven’t found acceptance outside of yourself just yet. There’s no rush. There’s no pressure, just because it’s pride month.

Pride Month is already for you. 

I just jerked out of my midday dissociation and realized that seed bombing a golf course with mint would be the ultimate crime.

Oh my god this is so evil. 

I love it. 

jon: you might want to take a walk martin i’m about to say some spooky shit

jon the second martin leaves:

open a new window somewhere in the world. 

ah yes the 15 fears. goal oriented furries. music that makes you go apeshit. fucking off to sea. moisturized clowns. extreme home makeover: door edition. nihilistic hentai. singing and the rain. academic truth or dare. the bee movie extended universe. yeeting people. the power of vore and friendship. simon says: spider edition. a parents guide to arson. the sun but evil. and of course: cringe umbrellas.

me, crying for the last 20 minutes of episode 42: it's going to be O-A-K 🙃🙃🙃